Sunday, October 14, 2012

The W word

Widow. If I am honest with myself, I hate this word. It reminds me of the loss of the love of my life. It reminds me that all my dreams of being married and having a family (in the traditional sense) were realized and then lost.

But it is so much more than that. It is an ugly word and there are so many connotations that are bad. When I hear the word widow, I think of a bitter, old, lonely woman who never smiles. She dresses in drab colors, has unkempt hair and wrinkles from frowning. Her eyes are empty. You feel sorry for her when you look at her.

This is not who I am. This is not who I am called to be. I like to smile. I love to see the joy in everyday things. I am lonely sometimes, but in the solitude I am drawn closer to Jesus.

I did some bible study on the word "widow" and I found so many instances where God commands us to care for widows and fatherless children. It gives me so much comfort knowing that he understands my grief and has given specific instructions for my care.

"Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world."
                                                                                                  ~James 1:27 (NIV)

                                                   "Learn to do right; seek justice.
                                                    Defend the oppressed.
                                                    Take up the cause of the fatherless;
                                                    Plead the case of the widow."
                                                                                ~Isaiah 1:17 (NIV)

I miss my husband so much. But I am not alone. Not only do I have my family and friends looking out for me and supporting me. I have God.

"A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling."
                                                                                                                                ~Psalm 68:5

I have a father in heaven who is there for me whenever I am lonely, whenever I am sad, when I am scared and when I am lost. Knowing He is there for me gives me strength. It brings me joy.

"......Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength.”
                                                                     ~Nehemiah 8:10

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  1. we are neighbors @ sorry for your loss...continued grace and peace to you~

  2. Bless you, Vicki, for this honest post. I actually don't have negative connotations for the word widow, but I suppose there are some out there. I pray that God continues to give you a positive attitude to share with others.

  3. Blessings to you! It has to be difficult, but I am glad you find comfort in the Lord.